12 Nov The Necessity of a Surrogacy Support System
A well-known proverb and common saying claims that it “takes a village to raise a child.” And anyone with children knows this to be true. Whether it is a band of babysitters, a group of fellow parents, or close family members to offer help, parenting is best done with a support system. And we believe the same to be true about the surrogacy journey. Serving as a surrogate requires emotional and practical support from those in your corner. So don’t go it alone– invite others to share in each challenge and every celebration!
The challenges of surrogacy:
Pregnancy presents a myriad of adversities. Though every woman’s experience is unique, it is often marked with several physical discomforts and emotional hardship. And surrogate mothers face a compounding challenge to this already-difficult endeavor. Surrogacy involves particular demands for decision making, time commitments, and unique emotions. So, be sure that as a surrogate mother, you can lean upon a network of good friends, family members, and everyone committed to your positive experience.
The benefits of support:
Your pregnancy will not only impact you but all of those close to you as well. So invite them to participate in this journey alongside you. Support might come from your significant other, close friends, family members, and even your children. And it may come in several ways and different capacities. But no matter how you are shown support, make sure that it all points to your positive and successful surrogacy process.
Ways you might ask for and receive support:
- Emotional support. Pregnancy is inherently stressful, perhaps frustrating, and even frightening at times. And surrogacy may only add to these feelings of worry or sadness. For the good and bad days of your surrogacy pregnancy, be sure to have someone there for you when you need emotional support.</li >
- Practical help. During pregnancy, you will be confronted with several physical challenges. You may feel particularly tired, mentally drained, and busy with doctor appointments. In this tough season, call on your support system to help you fulfill your day-to-day responsibilities when you can not. This could involve picking up your kids from school or babysitting, cooking, cleaning, running errands, etc.
Who to include in your support system:
Your support system should consist of whoever you believe will contribute positively to your surrogacy experience. Consider how they might understand and sympathize with all that you’re going through. Keep in mind that while someone might be close to you, they may not always be the best option for your support system. Choose those who will walk alongside you, offer assistance, and always respect your feelings through this journey.
Finally, don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Acknowledge that your emotions– every doubt, fear, and joy create your unique experience and should be met with validation and respect. This will cultivate a positive surrogacy experience in each step of the process. Don’t take this on by yourself–approach this beautiful challenge among those who will offer you support.
We at Future Generation strive to offer our surrogate mothers compassionate support in each step of their journey. If you are interested in becoming a surrogate mother or would like to discuss any questions you might have, please do not hesitate to reach out. Experience the miraculous joys of surrogacy as you help a couple in need!